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When Life Snacks You in the Face

When Life Smacks You in the Face: Navigating the Storm

For years, we’ve focused our blogs on tips and suggestions for living your best life. But what happens when life gets too “lifey”? When everything hits all at once? Recently, my personal and professional life took a massive smack to the face, and I’m here to share how I’m navigating this tumultuous period.

Life has a way of piling things on, and these past few months have been a prime example. My aging parents have become more demanding, culminating in the difficult family decision to place my father in a full-time memory care facility. This transition was anything but smooth. It wasn’t a choice I agreed with, yet it was happening. Accepting this new reality and coming to terms with our family’s new dynamics has been an ongoing process.

On top of that, I recently turned 60. I decided to celebrate with a big party, inviting as many friends and family as possible. As an event planner, I wanted everything to be perfect, seamlessly elegant, and filled with love—expressed through the food I cooked myself. The event was a success, but the effort and anxiety to get everything right added a significant layer of stress.

As if these changes weren’t enough, shortly after the party, a dear friend from college passed away. The last time I saw her was at my celebration, a stark reminder to cherish our loved ones while we can. Adding to the heartbreak, our beloved family dog, Archie, also passed away that same week. Archie was a constant source of unconditional love and losing him was a profound blow.

In the midst of personal turmoil, I took on a new business venture with my brother. We launched, another platform to continue my mission of healing. This new endeavor required intensive planning—business models, marketing plans, creating logos, websites, and social media. The excitement of starting something new was tempered by the sheer volume of work and stress.

So, how did I handle this life smack? Here are some of the strategies that helped me navigate this overwhelming period. Many of these we have touched on in previous blogs:

  1. Circle the Wagons

When life gets tough, my first instinct is to circle the wagons. I reached out to a select few family members and close friends, vocalizing what I was going through and where I needed help. Most importantly and difficult to do was accepting the help that was offered—it’s not a sign of weakness but of strength and wisdom.

  1. Reprioritize

With so many demands on my time and energy, reprioritizing became essential. I focused on what needed to be done immediately and what could wait. Delegating tasks was also a key part of this strategy. Knowing who to trust with specific responsibilities allowed me to manage my workload more effectively.

  1. Embrace Lists

I love a good list, or two. Separating and creating lists for both of my businesses, home and family life and the challenges of creating a comfortable and stable new environment for Dad helped me stay organized. Breaking down tasks into manageable pieces made the mountain of work seem less daunting and more achievable.

  1. Prioritize Self-Care

Some days, the weight of everything was too daunting, and I found it necessary to simply be still. Self-care became an essential part of my routine. Taking bubble baths, going for walks, or just sitting and staring into space aren’t “doing nothing”—they are crucial activities that allowed me to recharge. Listening to my body and giving it the rest it needed was vital. Crying, both alone and with others, was a cathartic release that helped me process my emotions. Recognizing the importance of these moments of rest and emotional release was essential to maintaining my overall well-being.

Life smacks us all at times—sometimes all at once and sometimes spread over years. It’s not about the smack itself but how we respond to it. By reaching out for support, reprioritizing tasks, and staying organized, I’ve managed to navigate this challenging period. Some days better than others, some days I don’t do it perfectly or at all. I had to accept that is ok to just do “ok”.

If you’re going through something similar, remember you’re not alone. We all face tough times, and while we may not be able to control what happens, we can control how we react and adapt. Stay resilient, seek support, and take it one step at a time. If you need help please reach out to us or another spiritual or health care provider.

If you would like to share your story of a “life smack” and how you coped we want to hear! I bet your story will be able to help someone else.